Wednesday, March 05, 2025

[Tenant] To those of you landlords who don't allow bidets to be installed: If you found out that your tenant used a handheld shower wand as also a handheld bidet, what would your reactions be like?

 

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[Tenant] To those of you landlords who don't allow bidets to be installed: If you found out that your tenant used a handheld shower wand as also a handheld bidet, what would your reactions be like?

Tenant

I lived in an apartment whose landlord didn't allow the installations of bidet-attachments because he didn't want a higher water bill. He wanted his $2000/month water bill for my building to get to something like $1500/month. I could've moved to another apartment complex that would allow bidet-attachments but I begrudgingly stayed there due to the free rent paid for by the mental health agency that I was a client of at the time.

When I told him "I think I'll be able to clean my body more thoroughly if I have a handheld shower wand instead of a fixed showerhead, so can I switch the fixed showerhead out for a handheld shower wand?" He permitted that because he knew that shower wands in 2015 can be made to be just as efficient (if not more so) than fixed shower heads.

I secretly wanted it to be used as a handheld bidet too. My toilet was next to the bathtub so I only needed a shower wand with a 6-foot hose.

So to circumvent his no-bidet rule, I used the shower wand as a handheld bidet also, and kept it a secret from the landlord.

If you were my landlord who didn't allow bidet-attachments, and then found out somehow that I also used the shower wand as a handheld bidet, how would you have reacted?

 

 

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[–]Away_Refuse8493 17 points  

Huh??? Are you sure that's the reason, and not simply b/c he didn't want tenants creating a mess or installing it incorrectly? The reason most LLs don't allow tenants to install ANYTHING is b/c they don't want tenants actually damaging the unit.

It's typical in every lease for tenants to back-bill for excessive use, and he can easily begin surcharging for water come renewal time (or even beforehand).

[–]Sea2Chi 11 points  

Yep, I've worked as a handyman before.

You would think tightly connect this hose to that hose would be a pretty simple instruction.

A flooded downstairs neighbor would prove you wrong.

[–]latihoa 4 points  

This is exactly it. I have a (properly installed) bidet in the home that I own and didn’t notice any increase in my water bill. I don’t allow bidets in my rentals because I’ve had several tenants who won’t even tell me when there is a leak, almost no one wants to pay a professional to install anything, and the majority of people won’t/can’t install it properly themselves.

[–]solatesosorry 13 points  

Landlords probably don't particularly like or dislike bidets. What they dislike are additional plumbing joints that leak.

A bidet provides several opportunities for leaking without any significant advantages to the landlord. So, no.

[–]Old_Preparation_6199 8 points  

“Dear landlord, I think I can clean my body more thoroughly…”

Who the fuck talks like this to a landlord. Insanity

[–]LandlordIceCreamforLunch 7 points  

This whole hypothetical is bizarre.

First, how much water does the landlord imagine a bidet could use?

Second, how would the landlord ever know how you're using the shower in your bathroom?

[–]Wise_woman_1 3 points  

Nothing like poo particles in the holes of your shower head to ensure you clean yourself properly.

[–]97math 2 points  

Then you would say you were using it to clean yourself in the shower, as intended.

[–]LandlordEUGsk8rBoi42p 3 points  

This sounds like anxiety talking rather than anything.

[–]Landlordsnowplowmom 4 points  

I recently read about a tenant whose installed bidet attachment wound up causing a massive flood in the apartment and the unit below, tens of thousands of dollars of damage. The tenant suspected that their pet had somehow turned it on while they were out, but who knows. The tenant then of course immediately uninstalled the after-market bidet attachment. They couldn't understand why the LL was holding them responsible for the damages.

Use paper, and then if you like use a washcloth afterwards (not flushable wipes, which can clog the plumbing). Time your daily shower appropriately, if you like. But don't risk a mess by installing anything extra, or using plumbing other than how it's intended.

[–]FortCollinsFlash 3 points  

You better get video, or it didn't happen 👊😎

[–]LandlordDm-me-a-gyro 3 points  

I don’t care what people who don’t pay rent want or think.

[–]LandlordNard_the_Fox 4 points  

Right? They don't run the business and have no idea what the potential real issues are, nor do any of us want to have a discussion that breaks down logically the thought process behind it.

Even a $200 Tushy Bidet has plastic parts in it that go to shit over time, and I've seen the results of a slow leak on hardwood floors. Tenants don't note that damage, nor do they want to take responsibility for wood floor replacement as a result of their improper installation or item failure.

"Oh, my $200 bidet caused $10k in replacement floor damage!?! I can't pay for that!"

Who the fuck can!?! God damn.

[–]Mikey3800 2 points  

has plastic parts in it that go to shit over time

I see what you did there.

[–]LandlordNard_the_Fox 2 points  

😉

[–]Starbeets 1 point  

What a bizarre comment.

[–]LandlordDm-me-a-gyro 2 points  

Is it? Seems like a perfectly reasonable perspective to me.

[–]Starbeets 3 points  

The issue isn't "I get to treat tenants with subsidized rent however I want because they are poor." The issue is "will my landlord be angry that I am getting shit all over the bathroom and causing water damage by dragging the shower wand to the toilet to clean my ass."

As a landlord, I'm horrified. No way that water isn't spraying everywhere.

[–]LandlordDm-me-a-gyro 3 points  

Inspections then eviction.

Idiots are just as likely to use the stove as a clothes dryer as they are to use a shower head as a makeshift bidet. In both cases they get to find somewhere else to live.

[–]Mediocre-Painting-33 4 points  

ask for a refund from your "mental health agency", use money to move somewhere else

[–]TheMartok 3 points  

Tf lol

[–]MiNdOverLOADED23 1 point  

This actually isn't a sub for tenants to be asking landlords questions. Letting you know in case you're wondering why you're getting downvoted

[–]fukaboba 1 point  

As a LL I would not be happy.

You lied to LL, broke his trust and defied his rules.

Risk water damage is now amplified and you are in violation of lease terms

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