Saturday, October 02, 2021

AITA for asking for compensation when a heavy-smoking drunkard with no income who lived for free upstairs with a girlfriend, interrupted my sleep numerous times in order to ask me for a ride to a supermarket?

 

AITA for asking for compensation when a heavy-smoking drunkard with no income who lived for free upstairs with a girlfriend, interrupted my sleep numerous times in order to ask me for a ride to Dillons?

I sleep in the day & work evenings. He'd ask for rides to Dillons (Kroger chain of supermarkets) when I still had hours of sleep left. I'd ask for compensation because I needed to sleep, but he'd have nothing to provide me right then. Yet he still insisted that I take him.

I refused to be anyone's free taxi service when I wasn't well-rested and alert, so I told him to only come back either when I'm well-rested or when he'd figure out what compensation to give me.

I'd also ask the jobless man why couldn't he just walk to Dillons himself. (About 7 blocks east of our apartment complex) He said he had a bad knee from an old motorcycle accident back in the 80s. It hurt to this day, so without medical insurance for painkillers, he resorted to drinking heavy liquor (often vodka) to dull the pain. It's also why he'd ask for $5 frequently; the cheapest vodka would be had for $5.

I told him "As the US Marines say, 'Pain Is Weakness Leaving Your Body.'" (Yes, that is an actual motivational quote perpetuated by the USMC.) So I insinuated he'd get stronger through the pain if he'd just tough it out and walk there anyway.

I also asked why he wouldn't make friends with other tenants in the complex who actually was alert in the daytime and he said he didn't like to associate with most people but very much wanted to be around me.

Later, he would compensate me sometimes with meals that he'd cook (to his credit, he cooked quality meals somehow) so after taste-testing them, I'd begrudgingly give him rides, although it wasn't as safe to give rides in my state of tiredness. After all, drowsy driving may be as dangerous as drunk driving. (Is it?)

Luckily, he and his girlfriend were eventually banned from the apartment complex because he wasn't authorized on the lease and she had cats that he gave him, but without the proper pet authorizations ($200 pet fee, vaccinations and miscellaneous documents.)

So AITA for asking for compensation upon being asked for a ride by a drunk neighbor, due to my needing to sleep in the daytime and work in the evenings? And for implying that his knee pain would make him stronger if he toughed through it by walking 7 blocks to Dillons instead?


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I refused to grant him rides so I could go back to sleep, until he could find a way to compensate me.

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[–][deleted] 5 points  

YTA. You don't owe anyone any rides anywhere, so I was all set to say NTA. But that "motivational" quote? Wow.

[–][deleted] 8 points  

Dude, the US Marines invented that quote, not I.

That doesn't mean you had to say it.

Why don't you believe that pain is indeed weakness leaving the body, like how the Marines believe it?

Because it's horseshit.

[–]curly_loxPooperintendant [55] 2 points  

The USMC did not invent that quote.

Also, even if they did doesn't mean it's accurate.

Why the Marine fetish, anyway?

[–]sleepybot0524Partassipant [2] 2 points  

NTA, dude all you are doing is asking for gas money....people been asking for gas money since the Ford MODEL T

[–]dizzyfromschool 2 points  

Eh I feel like you would be NTA by asking for compensation, but you would probably have to do that through small claims court, and good luck with that

[–]curly_loxPooperintendant [55] 2 points  

After the fact? Definitely. But if you ask at the time, that isn't a problem.

Also "pain is weakness leaving the body" is complete bullshit toxic masculinity garbage.

Pain is a sign that something is wrong with your body. I also have post traumatic arthritis in my knees for about the last 30 years, I can tell you the pain gets worse, never better, over time.

But still, you can ask him to pay you for rides.

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AITA for asking for compensation when a heavy-smoking drunkard with no income who lived for free upstairs with a girlfriend, interrupted my sleep numerous times in order to ask me for a ride to Dillons?

I sleep in the day & work evenings. He'd ask for rides to Dillons (Kroger chain of supermarkets) when I still had hours of sleep left. I'd ask for compensation because I needed to sleep, but he'd have nothing to provide me right then. Yet he still insisted that I take him.

I refused to be anyone's free taxi service when I wasn't well-rested and alert, so I told him to only come back either when I'm well-rested or when he'd figure out what compensation to give me.

I'd also ask the jobless man why couldn't he just walk to Dillons himself. (About 7 blocks east of our apartment complex) He said he had a bad knee from an old motorcycle accident back in the 80s. It hurt to this day, so without medical insurance for painkillers, he resorted to drinking heavy liquor (often vodka) to dull the pain. It's also why he'd ask for $5 frequently; the cheapest vodka would be had for $5.

I told him "As the US Marines say, 'Pain Is Weakness Leaving Your Body.'" (Yes, that is an actual motivational quote perpetuated by the USMC.) So I insinuated he'd get stronger through the pain if he'd just tough it out and walk there anyway.

I also asked why he wouldn't make friends with other tenants in the complex who actually was alert in the daytime and he said he didn't like to associate with most people but very much wanted to be around me.

Later, he would compensate me sometimes with meals that he'd cook (to his credit, he cooked quality meals somehow) so after taste-testing them, I'd begrudgingly give him rides, although it wasn't as safe to give rides in my state of tiredness. After all, drowsy driving may be as dangerous as drunk driving. (Is it?)

Luckily, he and his girlfriend were eventually banned from the apartment complex because he wasn't authorized on the lease and she had cats that he gave him, but without the proper pet authorizations ($200 pet fee, vaccinations and miscellaneous documents.)

So AITA for asking for compensation upon being asked for a ride by a drunk neighbor, due to my needing to sleep in the daytime and work in the evenings? And for implying that his knee pain would make him stronger if he toughed through it by walking 7 blocks to Dillons instead?

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[–]rapt2rightSupreme Court Just-ass [133] 1 point  

YTA. Just say "Sorry, I can't " without all the dramatic judgment and condescension.


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