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BIG YES BOMB!!!!!
Original Title: "ENG's Ideas, Inventions, and Innovations Journal"
This blog, started 3-15-2005, contains journal entries and also ideas, innovations, and inventions that come to mind.
Note: All personal entries that aren't the 3 I's will be labeled "(Personal Entry)" on the titles' ends.
My blog is now "BIG YES BOMB" because I found Jason Carter on Facebook one night and asked, "Are you...
...Elder Carter from Nagasaki?" His answer is the title today!
Tuesday, April 16, 2024
Son Of WAY contrafactum #576: Wrinkled District Attorney
Tuesday, May 09, 2023
Son Of WAY contrafactum: That Is What People Sounded Like In 1983
* That Is What People Sounded Like In 1983
Thursday, May 04, 2023
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Thursday, July 21, 2022
(PJE: Personal Journal Entry) Recurring memory: Being pulled over in Missouri
Friday, April 23, 2021
My Interpersonal Communication Journal Entry for Conflict (Stonewalling)
(ENG)
Instructor: Rachel Santine
Interpersonal Communication
April 2021
Journal Entry: Conflict - Stonewalling
Stonewalling is putting up a figurative barrier that stands in the way of conflict resolution,
and has happened pretty often since childhood,
although it doesn’t happen as often as it used to.
In those days, if I ask “What have I done wrong” or “how have I offended you,”
they might tell me to shut up or give answers that obviously is neither helpful nor constructive,
nor the real reason why there is a conflict in the first place (example: “You were born.”)
I have since learned to find answers from mutual friends or grown-ups who work with those kids,
in the days when we were children.
Later on, when Jacob and Emily E. took me off of their friends list on Facebook back in about 2009,
I later met up with Jacob at a sibling’s wedding reception.
When I asked him what I did to have them take me off,
he told me “don’t worry about it.”
He was stonewalling me - denying me the opportunity to explain myself and my side of the situation;
a chance to refute.
Although I may later ask his sisters what they know about why Jacob and Emily took me off,
I later surmised that it was because of a silly and short-sighted post I made onto the
Facebook newsfeed about Tyler “C.J.” J. and chocolate milk.
Everyone was less mature in 2009,
save for those who later got dementia;
we have since progressed in our emotional and social intelligence
(while those with dementia regressed in the other direction)
so I have definitely learned a ton of lessons since then.
That situation with J&EE was the last real-life stonewalling situation I can remember.
It has taught me how to use networking to my advantage -
find friends and relatives we both know and find answers from them,
if the former friends stonewall me from getting answers from them directly.
Also, backtracking my actions can help in figuring out answers that stonewallers would otherwise deny me.
Saturday, April 17, 2021
Personal Finance class discussion response to: Retirement, Wills and Estate Planning
(Originally posted to the HCC LearningZone discussion page about Retirement, Wills and Estate Planning on March 24th, 2021)
When it comes to retirement, I don't have a 401k benefit at my current job (Doordash) and I don't plan to retire anyway. I expect to work indefinitely.
Since the advancement of medical science will accelerate due to faster processing speeds and improved research methods, someday in my / our lifetimes, the cure for all aging-related diseases, and even aging itself, will arrive, thereby making the concept of retirement obsolete. As we would become clinically immortal, we would no longer have a need to retire.
If a future employer still imposes a mandatory retirement age despite new trends in life expectancy and extension and clinical immortality becoming a thing, I would take the company-sponsored pension and put that towards an education in a new trade / field / major and use that "vacation time" to go back to college in order to retrain for some of the newest, trendiest vocations of the time. Then I would find another job in that newly-trained field. Then I would work for another 30-50 more years until whenever I get tired of the job / company or reach an arbitrary time limit that the company imposes on their long-term employees. Then I would take another "vacation" for a few years (whether to retrain for yet another new job or pursue a hobby) then find another company / field / vocation to work in. These steps would repeat indefinitely. As far as I know, I can still receive a prior company's pension even while I work for a new employer so this would mean more income streams at once while I take advantage of being clinically immortal, therefore the newly acquired ability to work and live indefinitely.
Now in case an accident or still-uncured disease incapacitates me from the ability to work / function, I still need to prepare a living will. It may cost a few hundred dollars at an estate attorney's office, to have help in putting the will together.
Also, annuities are the opposite of life insurance and therefore insures beneficiaries who are to live longer lives, by providing an income after a certain age until death. Should clinical immortality arrive and become accessible to the common man and woman, annuities may be stretched to the breaking point and may become obsolete.
Monday, March 08, 2021
My Interpersonal Communication Journal for Week 9: Listening (Chapter 8)
(ENG)
Instructor: Rachel Santine
Interpersonal Communication
March 2021
Journal for Week 9: Listening (Chapter 8)
I have struggles with listening -
I can’t stop thinking random thoughts when I’m supposed to tune into somebody talking or a video I’m watching.
When I try to learn and absorb from a video,
I try to multitask in hopes that practicing multitasking will help me get better at it.
Therefore, I play app games on my phone (with the volume down)
at the same time that I try to listen to a video.
Results are mixed - it depends on the video’s content and how interested I am in it.
I wish my mind wouldn’t wander while I didn’t multitask listening with something else.
I’ve learned from a dating coach is that what women like is for men to listen to them,
whether on a date, or during a normal conversation.
That is why on the next date I go on, I must try harder to not let my mind wander,
therefore to tune in to whatever she’s talking about,
and respond in ways indicating that I have listened and absorbed to all that I needed to.
Wednesday, March 03, 2021
My Interpersonal Communication Journal Entry for Chapter 7: Nonverbal Communication (Part 2)
(ENG)
Instructor: Rachel Santine
Interpersonal Communication
Spring 2021
Journal Entry for Chapter 7: Nonverbal Communication (Part 2)
One time in the after-show of the Christmas play I acted in, I was speaking to a Brianna W., and showed poor complementing and accidental contradicting. Earlier, before the play, I had changed into my costume, then realized I had not sprayed my mouth with breath spray yet. I didn’t want to give off a bad impression to anybody by having bad breath, so I tried to go back into the dressing room, which had already been locked by the time I realized I needed my breath spray. I begged the play coordinator to unlock the dressing room so that I could get a spray to freshen my breath, but she wouldn’t budge. I didn’t see any harm in taking a minute or two to unlock the door and let me get in to spray my mouth, but somehow the thought of doing me that favor must’ve been too harmful for her to accept, and I still don’t understand how, except perhaps that it was “too close to the time of the play starting.”
I shook my mind off of my breath during the play, but in the after-play reception, I spoke to a good friend who was a potential romantic interest. (We “felt” it but neither of us expressed it outwardly.) I was so worried about how my breath was smelling and whether she was noticing it, with the inability to freshen it up, that I looked away while talking to her solely due to that mental preoccupation. Her tone became less friendly, but I didn’t think to explain why I was behaving like this probably because I was too preoccupied with my breath more than how I was broadcasting my visual signals to her. I was answering her with affirmatives, but my nonverbal signals were not a matching complement, so that made her feel something was off about me.
We were going to partner up in the soundbooth at the Christian Challenge campus ministry the following semester but that plan fell through because of various reasons, and likely my mixed, contradicting signals were a part of those reasons too. I stopped attending the ministry regularly and punctually for other reasons as well, so Brianna teamed up with my alternate - Tabitha I.
Years later, after I had moved to Hutchinson, she contacted me again through Facebook and a video chatting app to discuss about her MLM scheme (Amway). I wasn’t interested in paying into another pyramid scheme, and I couldn't afford to at the time anyway, but I had time to spare, so I wanted to learn about that business anyway and what was so good about it, so I let her talk to me. Besides, as a people-pleaser, it wasn’t in my nature to turn her down, since we were still friends the last time we met in person. In those e-meetings, I finally managed to explain myself by reminding her about the post-play reception at Cloud County Community College years earlier, and why my body language didn’t seem right while talking to her - when I explained that it was because I was worried about my bad breath, she was quite understanding and helped me move on from it. I gained a peace-of-mind in having finally had a chance to explain my non-verbal actions.
I have had a habit for years to keep a container of breath mints or spray in my pocket, as it seems to be a confidence-booster for when I socialize / communicate.
Sunday, February 28, 2021
My Interpersonal Communication Week 8 journal: Nonverbal communication (Chapter 7, Part 1)
(ENG)
Instructor: Rachel Santine
Interpersonal Communication
February 2021
Week 8 journal: Nonverbal communication (Chapter 7, Part 1)
I have learned that 93% of a job interview is non-verbal. That is why secretly recording the interview with my phone’s voice recording app while it’s in my pocket will not be entirely helpful when a job coach listens to the recorded interview to give feedback on my job performance. To surreptitiously film myself at an interview may require a miniature drone with a tiny video camera. The drone would have to be about the size of a house fly but have a long enough battery life and “know” how to follow me and stay on my side of the door at all times. Alas, I don’t think such a drone has been invented yet, but if it does come along some day, it could film from a bird’s-eye view, my interview performance. Employers can’t know about that kind of recording though.
As someone who grew up with an autism spectrum disorder (high-functioning, known as Asperger’s Syndrome), I often did not realize what non-verbal signals I was giving off, which is why so many people couldn’t understand me and therefore considered me a lost cause not worth having a friendship with. I think it would’ve been helpful to have some kind of “social coach” observe me and the ones I interact with so they could point out any nonverbal cues and etc. that I should have picked up but missed. It’s no wonder I’m still single today, and that’s why I hope for this class to improve my social performance.
Sunday, February 07, 2021
My Physiology Log & Journal for Interpersonal Communication - February 7
Instructor: Rachel Santine
Interpersonal Communication
Hutchinson Community College
Spring 2021
This journal entry has been copy/pasted from my assignment document.
2-7-2021:
4:08 PM - I sleep into the afternoon these days because I don’t have a lot of structure in my life.
I like to sleep for as long as it makes me comfortable,
so since I slept through to around 3:30 this afternoon, I feel pretty swell now.
The freezing temperatures froze the water bottle in the left dash cupholder.
Therefore, I can’t pull the bottle out of the cupholder now,
but hopefully when I dash for the next several hours this evening,
the heater will thaw the water and let me pull it out of there again.
I decide not to use gloves because I don’t go outside for a long enough time to need them.
I stay indoors much of the time.
The cold was a little biting, and made my nose a little runny.
Oh well, at least I was only outside for 2 minutes then went to Rimmer to finish this journal,
so I’m relieved that I’m now out of the cold.
FYI: I don’t turn on the heat at home because I can just let the other apartments’ heat radiate into mine.
That’s why my apartment’s temperature never falls below the upper 50s.
Saves quite a bit of money that way.
At least I’ll not be back home for a while, so I’ll get to enjoy the heat at Rimmer, and my SUV;
what a relief to look forward to.
4:40 PM - My journal is now complete, now that I’ve made a graph by hand.
I don’t think I’ll be able to plot them on a computer at the present time.
I hope Rachel would please show me examples of other students’ graphs,
so that I can look upon them as an example and template for how they ought to be done.
I’m not sure that I did my graph right,
and hopefully the times that she had us write these journals were just suggestions,
as I don’t get up at the same time as most other students.
So I feel better that these journals and graphs are done.
I’m looking forward to making bank while dashing this evening,
because the Super Bowl is making me and other dashers expect to have a ton of business.